tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post500621136550991042..comments2023-12-28T16:02:42.416+05:30Comments on A malayali doctor's blog: It seemed they all wanted her to die.Part 3Arun.N.M.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-19930766105943486572009-04-10T07:11:00.000+05:302009-04-10T07:11:00.000+05:30Indyeah,Welcome here.Yes it was more heart breakin...Indyeah,Welcome here.Yes it was more heart breaking for me because I believed in the family.They are not cruel.They were just following the society norms.No one among them was brave enough to break free from it.Arun.N.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-67657848966339685882009-04-10T07:09:00.000+05:302009-04-10T07:09:00.000+05:30Winnie,welcome here.Yes society and Parents are li...Winnie,welcome here.Yes society and Parents are like that,but there is palpable changes coming though slowly.Let us work for that changeArun.N.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-67352103855746404382009-04-06T03:17:00.000+05:302009-04-06T03:17:00.000+05:30This was so heartbreaking to readThis was so heartbreaking to readIndyeahhttp://indyeahforever.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-32957617682112174902009-04-06T03:15:00.000+05:302009-04-06T03:15:00.000+05:30Came from IHM's blog..You know what I feel disgust...Came from IHM's blog..<BR/><BR/>You know what I feel disgust! Disgust that such a father and such a mother exist.. they pro create make kids and the kids suffer thus.. and I feel disgusted by such a society that hides and protects and abets such people!!Winnie the poohihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11445691463105808647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-79348487001248800942009-03-16T01:48:00.000+05:302009-03-16T01:48:00.000+05:30Paul, welcome to this Blog.Feel free to mail me at...Paul, welcome to this Blog.Feel free to mail me at doc6568@gmail.comArun.N.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-59735068182131428462009-03-04T00:05:00.000+05:302009-03-04T00:05:00.000+05:30Wanted to mail you a long time ago. Ever since I r...Wanted to mail you a long time ago. Ever since I read your post on the girl who died of aids. Never got down to doing it. I'm terribly sorry. May be I will someday be in the right frame of mind to do it.<BR/><BR/>Deepest regards.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301993847829758712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-62075308969625941272009-02-07T00:29:00.000+05:302009-02-07T00:29:00.000+05:30IHM,Guilt I will feel always.I had the ability to ...IHM,Guilt I will feel always.I had the ability to make some change to her plight,but I believed the family,thought their intentions might be good [eventhough in the back of my mind i knew it was not} and did not want to make too much interference in their pvt life.<BR/> Incest I am not very sure.The entry of the virus must have been atleast 5 years before the death,may be more.Arun.N.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-18669672297492621832009-02-06T13:16:00.000+05:302009-02-06T13:16:00.000+05:30Don't feel guilty. Just feel angry, very, very ang...Don't feel guilty. Just feel angry, very, very angry.<BR/>We talk about our family values like such hypocrites. <B>Imagine she must have known they didn't care, even before she contracted aids from such abuse.</B> When we talk about loving our children we should say, but we love our social image more ...<BR/>I am disturbed. And she could have lived and maybe seen something like happiness in some orphanage, oh my God. And seventeen is old enough to know they didn't care. That knowing that someone wants you to do die, and knowing that they blamed her in a way for being abused, the abuse itself. I wish she had lived and seen some happiness also.<BR/><BR/>This is not helplessness as much as indifference.<BR/><BR/>But I am glad you blogged about it. We should know this horrible side of life also ... we know, but it doesn't hit until you hear this.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-6246748128116804102009-01-29T00:47:00.000+05:302009-01-29T00:47:00.000+05:30Yes,It was shameful and I feel I am also responsib...Yes,It was shameful and I feel I am also responsible.Arun.N.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-86609952416143288452009-01-28T23:31:00.000+05:302009-01-28T23:31:00.000+05:30So Disturbing.. I have no words to express. We sho...So Disturbing.. I have no words to express. We should all die of shame as a society.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-37306690708255276942009-01-27T10:43:00.000+05:302009-01-27T10:43:00.000+05:30Celebrities coming out in the open with their HIV,...Celebrities coming out in the open with their HIV, Hep. B or C status has helped those in other countries. In our country, people are scared to come out in the open and declare such truths. When we as a society can accept them as they are, it will help prevent spread of such diseases. Many medics and paramedics discriminate against these people, but at least if they can come to us and tell their woes,at least we can give them some hope. We Drs. should try to speak about these issues and debate about them. Even if the attitude of 1 dr. or layman can be changed, its worth the effort.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-74102314092897679022009-01-25T23:07:00.000+05:302009-01-25T23:07:00.000+05:30Nimmy, thank you for the comment. There is possibi...Nimmy, thank you for the comment. There is possibility of incest. I am not sure. Or some one else is responsible. Getting the virus thru non sexual close contact is a very rare possibility.<BR/>She had no support from her family. I realized it fully a little late. Otherwise I would have been more pro-active and she might have got needed medical care. Still she might have succumbed to AIDS, but not to Society's Stigma and Discrimination.Arun.N.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-53935389824495672592009-01-25T12:35:00.000+05:302009-01-25T12:35:00.000+05:30hmm,indeed a sad and strange situation..But honest...hmm,indeed a sad and strange situation..But honestly speaking,i prfer th girl has life on this earth ended..How can she survive in an enviornment where she has no support after a trauma..<BR/><BR/><BR/>Is incest the only option on how she could have been infected..So sad...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-66833479864454259672009-01-22T14:49:00.000+05:302009-01-22T14:49:00.000+05:30I think you are right. She had every right to a li...I think you are right. She had every right to a life of dignity and she was denied that even in death. If only more people could come out in the open and reveal their HIV and HBsAg status,lives of such people would become more bearable.Vallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09599501316581784714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-8900622821085199622009-01-20T06:56:00.000+05:302009-01-20T06:56:00.000+05:30Calpumper,thank you for the comment.Still I feel s...Calpumper,thank you for the comment.Still I feel she need not have died.If only she could have some how survived the severe mental and physical trauma for few months/years... time may help in healing.Arun.N.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-74320529786090738862009-01-20T06:47:00.000+05:302009-01-20T06:47:00.000+05:30sscribles,welcome to the blog.She was a victim in ...sscribles,welcome to the blog.She was a victim in many ways of her family's pride not HIV/AIDS.If I with help of some social organisation took her out of her home she might have had a chance.And she was only 17[not 21 as I changed the age to hide the real person].Was there really an incestous relationship?Mother denies it and claims she might have got it due to close contact.In medical literature there is only one or two instances of a close non sexual family contact spreading HIV.From the attitude of the family members I got a feeling that they suspect incest.I could never ask the girl because she was very sick by the time I first saw her.Arun.N.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11255908292437790693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-31184448488806977862009-01-20T05:02:00.000+05:302009-01-20T05:02:00.000+05:30As sad as it is, sscribbles is right.I am so sorry...As sad as it is, sscribbles is right.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry you had to endure such an experience. I am more sorry the girl had to go through all of this.<BR/><BR/>There is solitude somewhere and if it had to be in her death, as sad as it is, then, I don't know. This is certainly a tough one.<BR/><BR/>Don't beat yourself up. You did what you could with the information you had.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03920320645744084041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638875082980829174.post-30365197749801421062009-01-19T14:13:00.000+05:302009-01-19T14:13:00.000+05:30Lurked from IHM's blog, glad I am here.I don't kno...Lurked from IHM's blog, glad I am here.<BR/><BR/>I don't know how to put it, but I guess, I am glad she died. For me, she died the day her father dared to abuse her. For me she died the day when her humilaition became known to her family yet they remained mute spectators. For me she died when her family never bothered to worry about her life-threatening disease. For me she found solitude in her death which this world never provided her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com